Flee Fornication

Flee Fornication

You ever wonder about the statement Jesus made about going away to prepare a place for us?

John 14:2 In my Father’s house are many mansions: if it were not so, I would have told you. I go to prepare a place for you.

John 14:3 And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again, and receive you unto myself; that where I am, there ye may be also.

Well this is connected to the wedding customs and practices of the Hebrews.  I made an attempt to condense the over all process as seen below.

  1. Father would make arrangements for his son’s wedding Genesis 24:1-4
  2. Marriage contract – groom promises to support his wife to be.
  3. Bridal payment
  4. Ritual Immersion prior to actually entering the formal betrothal period – symbolic of spiritual cleansing
  5. Betrothal period – a time of sanctification or “set apart”
  6. Groom would build new home – by building additional rooms to the family’s existing home
  7. The father of the groom would make the determination of when the dwelling was ready
  8. The bride knew of the approximate time the bridegroom would come for her, but not the day and hour
  9. The father of the bridegroom gave final approval for the wedding to begin.
  10. The celebration of the marriage supper

The bridegroom could call off the betrothal or marriage if the bride was found to have committed fornication (premarital relations). As seen here in Deut

Deut 22:20 But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:

Deut 22:21 Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from

Why is this important?  It is important because of what Jesus taught on marriage.  Jesus said the following:

Matthew 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

Here Jesus is telling us that premarital relations is the only exception for putting away a bride and only the bridegroom has this authority – not the bride.  This is consistent with the law and customs delivered to Moses.  Additionally a parable Jesus taught sheds more light on this topic

Matthew 22:11 And when the king came in to see the guests, he saw there a man which had not on a wedding garment:

Matthew 22:12 And he saith unto him, Friend, how camest thou in hither not having a wedding garment? And he was speechless.

Matthew 22:13 Then said the king to the servants, Bind him hand and foot, and take him away, and cast him into outer darkness; there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

The guest that did not have on a wedding garment is not to be confused with an unbeliever.

Matthew 22:14 For many are called, but few are chosen.

This man was called and was hoping to be a part of the wedding feast, but was not chosen.  Why?  I believe the answer is connected to the concept of fornication.  This man did not have on a wedding garment.  He had not prepared himself (sanctification) for the wedding feast.  We as believers in Christ are betrothed to him, so we must sanctify ourselves and be cleansed by the blood of Christ daily.  When our bridegroom returns, will we be found as fornicators or a bride without spot or wrinkle?

Some additional thoughts on the topic of marriage are found in 1 Cor 7 and Romans 7. In 1 Cor 7, Paul writes instructions addressing 3 groups of women

  1. unmarried – never married (verses 8-9)
  2. widows – husband died (verses 8-9)
  3. married (verses 10-11)

1 Cor 7:8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

1 Cor 7:9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

1 Cor 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:

1 Cor 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.

Many people erroneously connect the mention of unmarried in verse 11 to the unmarried in verse 8-9.  This is wrong because verse 11 clearly states that the unmarried woman still has a husband.  How can this be if she is unmarried?  Because even though she is divorced, God still considers her married to her husband.  Romans 7 shows this very clearly

Romans 7:2 For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

Romans 7:3 So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.

It is clear that Paul is teaching EXACTLY the same thing Jesus taught.  As we see in the gospels, this applies to men as well and not just women.  So according to God, if your spouse is still alive and you remarry, you are now living in adultery and adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of God.  I urge you to reconsider any divorce or remarriage.  Set your affections on things above and not on things in the earth.  Our bridegroom is returning for a spotless bride.  I pray we are found worthy as Esther was found worthy.

Do not be deceived by the modern teachings and views of the scriptures in regard to remarriage.  Jesus’ teaching on marriage in Matthew 5 and 19 has a double application – The physical and spiritual.  The premarital (fornication) exception clause he taught is directly from Torah and should not be confused with the modern view which states the exception clause is adultery.  The spiritual connection is in regard to our betrothal to the bridegroom, as we are not married – yet, but we are supposed to be waiting for Him to return – with our wedding garments on.

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5 Replies to “Flee Fornication”

    1. I am sorry but I never posted Flee fornication and where are you seeing this? I go into post section and I do not see it. What name is there by it that posted this

  1. If it means ‘fornication’ as in only before the ceremony, then it still would apply today and all who are engaged can only part for fornication. It says WHOSOEVER not just ‘Jews of that time’.

  2. Romans 7 is obviously not teaching about marriage! It is comparing Christ to …the law! It also only speaks of a woman being bound!

  3. What Jesus answered in the Gospels was about the Pharisees asking about ‘divorce for any reason’. Which was not correct. Under Moses, what was divorce? For one, it did not include adultery. So when adultery ended a marriage, the innocent spouse was never said to ‘have a hard heart’. Separate things. Also do notice the pronouns that Jesus uses in each Whosoever phrase. Did he really include EVERYONE? No, he made a specific list. Why is that? It is because the interpretation you have is very off base. It doesn’t add up. To follow it, one has to ignore the pronouns and the context.


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